yβall are confusing being responsible for your mental illness with being responsible for your recovery. you are not choosing to be mentally ill and getting better is not super easy. However, recovery requires some level of willingness and participation on your part. people can support you, provide resources, and help you through the process, but they cannot do the work for you. acknowledging that isnβt ableism.
im begging yall to think about when you say "you have to choose/want to be better" about mental disorders and disabilities in general.