The issue is often not about what people think about us, but more about what we think people think about us, We can only read our own minds not the minds of others. And reading our own minds is not the same as reading the minds of others.
Was In LA recently and went visiting all the aforementioned Buk sites! Went to the bar in Musso and Franks and got refused service and asked to leave for being too drunk!! The irony being I hadn’t even started drinking at this point!!! 😀😀
Psychologically and neurologically you are wrong. 1. If someone labels themselves with a given word to conceptualise a set of experiences, then that is their reality, may not be true or right to you. 2. You assume you can dictate other peoples reality, you can’t.