You donβt marry the person who makes you happy when theyβre around; you marry the one who makes you unhappy when theyβre not.
Make a two-column list:
1. Love/like
2. Hate/donβt like
Think about the person you plan to marry. Fill both columns with everything you can think of, no matter how small.
When youβre done, if thereβs even one thing in column 2, it will grow large enough to consume the marriage.
Dear husband..
I do not like matching outfits anyway.
And we don't need to travel.
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Unpaid bills, our bills.
If I made them too, I would help pay them.
No worries, babe, I'll work!
P.s... I don't have much saved at all. But what is mine is ours.
Oh, & sickness, I've got you!
That's great if you have a crystal ball. Our vows covered all that: for better or worse, richer or poorer, sickness and in health... We've been through all of it. 35 years later proved we both meant it. Love one another as God has loved you. "Me" will not work in a marriage.
Donβt even date someone unless you already know them well enough to know you can trust them to raise your children as prayer warriors in your absence. The more time you spend w/someone, the more emotionally invested you become, & children happen even when you didnβt plan for it.
Fair weather friends are a dime a dozen. The people who have got your back when the SHTF is where/when you find out who your true friends and allies really are. Anybody who hasn't found that out yet will figure it out when that time comes. By then, it might be too late...