Thoughts on deadlining kids at any level/age…
First, in college, where I’ve spent basically all of my time — at the highest levels.
IMO, it’s a sign of weakness when you “deadline a kid.”
Are there a few valid exceptions? For sure. Typically when you truly need to know because the same offer is out to another kid and there’s only one spot, or there’s a time-sensitive situation that needs attention.
But your deadline should be that you’re so good at recruiting, you trust the kid/family’s process.
But that ain’t typically the case.
“Need to know before the plane takes off from the visit.”
“Need to know in 48 hours.”
“Need to know by tomorrow.” 😂
“If you don’t take this other visit, we’ll up your scholarship.”
Maybe this is part of the reason why your talented team wasn’t Omaha bound… or misfired on expectations.
What do you need to know?
That your investment and offer to this kid is held by him/family picking you first? By putting on the full-court press?
Again, IMO, a massive sign of weakness and fear of somebody else recruiting him/her.
Your personality, connection, pitch, vision, staff, and process for helping a kid succeed should be your deadline.
And if we’re being honest, a lot of colleges miss on kids, cut kids, or take the wrong kids because they jumped the gun.
It should be a 2-way street.
We want you just as much as you want us.
Your visit should be about recruiting each other.
If the visit said that’s not the case, you didn’t recruit well enough.
Often, letting kids/families entertain their options is so valuable. Because when they DO commit, it’s real.
They’ve seen what they needed to see. They’ve looked around. And now they can verify YOU and what you’ve told them about your school/program.
Nothing better.
But when you put the time clock on it, to me it screams:
Get them now. We’ll figure it out later.
Now, first year outside of elite college baseball recruiting and we’ve got facilities/programs pressing families of 10-13-year-olds that they “need to know” or…
Or what? lol
Maybe I’ve just been lucky enough to be a part of programs that people fear — you don’t fear them.
I might be guilty then, but I doubt it.
Recruiting is a connection. To the kid. To the family. And right back to the program.
People win championships, not just talent.
How many times can we watch some of the most talented programs/teams not get over the hump?
There’s usually a reason.