A lot of suffering comes from the battles we create in our own minds. Protect your peace. Focus on what you can control.

i regret to inform you that personal growth rarely comes from acquiring new knowledge and almost always from: -getting humiliated -showing up terrified and doing it anyway -admitting you might be the problem

According to Neuroscience, your brain doesn’t care about your goals. It only cares about what you repeat. Every action you take strengthens a neural pathway, and whatever you do daily becomes who you are. If you want to be a writer, wanting it won’t rewire anything. Your brain doesn’t know you wanted to write. It only knows you wrote 50 days in a row. Act first, and the identity catches up later. I did this with writing online. I had no clue what I was doing, so I just published every single day. 7,000+ essays later, Penguin offered me a book deal. It wasn’t talent. It was repetition rewiring my brain into the type of person who writes.

Never whine, never complain, never try to justify yourself.

I want you to believe that one day e go click, nobody really get two heads and trust nobody really sabi like that. But if you stay jiggy and grinded, e go click

In some families, everyone sells what they have to support one person. Even the siblings' education are sacrificed. Those siblings would go look for any type of work to do - even the work that comes with humiliation, - and still send you money to support you. If people are crying about black tax, you better keep quiet. You're a product of black tax yourself. Always know the family you come from. Don't let privileged people tell you about black tax. People will tell you that "everybody will be alright even if you don't help." Na lie ooo. You would not have been alright if they didn't sacrifice for you. Ensure the people that looked after you are well looked after. Ensure your family can feed. Some of you blew up as superstars in whatever field you delved into. You're the light in your family. Accept your reality. Money eaten alone is not sweet.

Sure, you’re smart, but imagine if you were consistent.

Make money Invest in your tools Lock the remaining fund and earn yields Act broke Rinse & repeat

No one is really going to help you or give you direction. In fact, the odds are against you.

The problem with conversations like this is that most people are too busy deciding whether to take the feminist or misogynist side to understand the actual point. So the message keeps getting lost, and we can’t keep explaining the same thing every day. There’s a difference between paying for sex and paying for love. You’re not a mumu for deciding how much you’re willing to spend on sex. That’s your business and your pocket. You’re a mumu, however, if you think spending excessively on a woman who isn’t interested in you will make her love you. You cannot buy love. You can only pay someone to pretend to love you for as long as they can. Ask Ned Nwoko. She might marry you, even have your children, but that doesn’t mean she loves you and deep down, you’ll know. One of the easiest things to recognise is when someone loves you. The other is when they don’t.

Avoid Debt Live on less than you earn Invest the surplus

5 years of living below your means in your 20s will buy you freedom for the rest of your life.

what doesn't kill you introduces you to breathwork, delusional optimism, neuroplasticity, metacognition, game theory, nervous system regulation, inner child healing, gratitude, philosophy, balancing, manifestation, subconscious reprogramming, solitude, praying, pattern recognition, quantum mechanics, somatic healing, psychology, consciousness, human nature, emotional intelligence, and at least 10 different versions of yourself.

invest in your appearance my nigga

I won't die young o 🤲

People will constantly attack you in life. One of their main weapons will be to instill in you doubts about yourself – your worth, your abilities, your potential. They will often disguise this as their objective opinion, but invariably it has a political purpose – they want to keep you down.

it hits different when you realize you can actually make it on your own

take that shit personal nigga, they really thought you was gon stay exactly where they left you

Wait for big wiz own 😆

mama getting old, i gotta get this money