Ok... Not sure where to start with this.
In some ways, I agree...people should most definitely not get lost in a universe of onanism.
However, I would counsel young men to not get too tense or self conscious about women having a 'sixth sense' which can read what you are thinking or...umm...doing.
I would suggest instead, and things may have changed considerably since my day, the answer is to relax, take a breath, smile (in a not-creepy, joker way - that will do more harm than good), speak to your interests (also not in an obsessive way) ask her about her interests. Listen, converse, discuss.
Moderate your volume to 'middle'. You are not at a sports game, nor are you whispering Sid.
If you want to prepare, DO NOT watch Andrew Tate videos (this is general life advice).
Remain calm, don't panic and just...be.
It's ok to be nervous, she will be just as nervous. However the answer is NOT, and I will repeat this, NOT any kind of weird seductive technique twaddle you read on the internet.
guys who masturbate constantly have no confidence, low energy and cant make eye contact.
women have a sixth sense for this.
stop jerkin it.