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It’s here! It’s here! “Eyes On The Road” is officially available for purchase.
Writing this book changed my life—I hope it helps you, too.
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think about what changes when you stop treating exhaustion like a fixed condition and start treating it like something you can actually influence. not overnight. not all at once. but enough to make a difference.
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hot take, but not really: the majority of the advice you're getting about your life is just somebody describing what worked for them under conditions that no longer exist.
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let me save you a few years of confusion: being good at something does not obligate you to build your life around it. competence can become a cage when your utility to other people becomes your north star.
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you can get surprisingly far in life by becoming genuinely interested in other people. ask better questions. remember small details. celebrate people without redirecting attention toward yourself.
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at some point, you have to decide whether or not you are willing to be temporarily bad at the thing you claim you want to master. passion and ambition aren't enough unless you're willing to put the reps in. your calling requires dedication.
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a hard truth that might actually set you free:
some people understand your boundaries perfectly. they just don’t benefit from respecting them. the pattern speaks for itself.
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We need to stop giving people credit for apologies that express regret without committing to change. Remorse is not measured by how beautifully someone names the harm. It is measured by what they refuse to repeat.
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you’re waiting for the breakthrough, but your life can change quietly, too. one walk. one page. one honest conversation. one small promise kept every day. breakthroughs make headlines because they’re rare. repetition reshapes lives, every day.
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Before you call somebody toxic, ask yourself: did they hurt you? or did they disagree with you in a tone you did not enjoy?
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If your opinion only feels obvious when everyone around you agrees, spend time with it alone. Remove the applause. Remove the fear of being misunderstood. What remains might finally belong to you.
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You cannot feel a good thing before it happens. That is why the future always looks flat from where you are standing. The flatness is your imagination hitting its limit. Every beautiful thing you have ever experienced was once a distant possibility you couldn't even imagine.
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The pressure to agree is always strongest inside the group you most want to belong to. When you build the practice of thinking for yourself, no matter who is sitting next to you, you become harder to manipulate.
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Popular consensus can tell you what a lot of people believe. It cannot tell you whether they examined it, inherited it, feared questioning it, or repeated it because belonging felt safer than honesty.
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If hope feels too heavy, borrow something smaller: curiosity. What might tomorrow reveal? Who might surprise you? Which version of yourself have you not met yet?
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Accountability without context becomes cruelty. Context without accountability becomes permission to stay the same.
Tell the whole truth: what happened to you, what is happening around you, and what are you surrendering control of that you should be owning more fully?
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You are not responsible for the conditions that made survival so exhausting. You are responsible for noticing when your survival habits start to harm you or the people you love.
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my book is better than my tweets retweeted
I really believe that if we prioritized safe and consensual sexual pleasure as a collective society, everybody would be less mean. Too many people walking around saying “sex is overrated”, lying to themselves to cope, repressing their horny desires, and taking it out on others
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Every day, you practice becoming more familiar with something. Avoidance. Courage. Discipline. Rest. Self-abandonment. Self-trust. Your repetitions are teaching you who to be. Choose them with intention.
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Then: I mistook being needed for being loved.
Now: I pay attention to who stays close when I have nothing to fix, prove, or provide.
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