Things other than "book reader" or "hot" that acutally matter in a spouse/partner:
1. Puncuality and time management
2. List making
3. Basic financial literacy
On hotness, would you prefer
a) Someone super physically attractive (face, body, etc) whatever floats your boat, but they don’t read books.
b) Someone who reads books, but isn’t a total smoke show.
You are a man
You are a woman