If a woman raves about a guy but didn't sleep with him on the first few dates you should ignore her advice on "what is attractive" (and probably do the opposite)
Ryan Lee
@honorablesaint
Sep 25
Guys, never do this. Never, ever say this. This behavior is why she friend zoned him and is talking about him like he’s her gay best friend now.

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3 dates max or she’s not attracted to you
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If she's a virgin I think she can give you a homemade banana bread made with extra love instead. That's basically the equivalent, right?
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Oh. My. Gosh. NO. No men. Do NOT do this. If a woman isn't into you, move on. The "didn't feel it" is the feedback. Love is mysterious. It's probably God's mercy that a spark didn't happen. She's got friends and is connected. The last thing you want is for that line to come back and haunt you.
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“I adore you whatever” If looks could kill.
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same thing happens in marriage. men ask their wives how to turn them on and get a list of polite chores that produce zero sexual polarity.
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like a fisherman asking a fish, do you have any advice on how to catch you?
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Unless the feedback was hop on TRT probably ignore it.
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Jawline-Height- Status/Money is Law in dating nothing new
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Meaning is defined by you not cuz a man or woman is in a relationship.
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