Gay rights activists literally did this. They swallowed doma in exchange for FDA funding for aids research & medication, they ate DADT to not get fired from jobs. Obama famously was against gay marriage in 08, they didn’t pout, they remembered the bigger picture & got favorable scotus seats under both Dem admins
gay activists need to make a determination on what they care more about: a) marrying their preferred gender or b) being able to live openly and freely without fear of persecution or harassment