Choose kindness.
There’s a story about Jeff Bezos at age ten. He calculated the cost of his grandmother’s smoking: cigarettes per day, puffs per cigarette, plus a statistic he half remembered from an ad...
roughly two minutes of life lost per puff.
He leaned into the front seat and announced she’d given up nine years.
He expected applause for being a math whizz. Instead, she cried. His grandfather pulled over, took him aside, and said something he never forgot: being kind is harder than being clever.
"What I want to talk to you about today is the difference between gifts and choices. Cleverness is a gift; kindness is a choice. Gifts are easy—they're given, after all. Choices can be hard. You can seduce yourself with your gifts if you're not careful, and if you do, it'll probably be to the detriment of your choices."
Jeff Bezos, Invent and Wander