Dear avoidants, it actually takes less energy to face what youโre dealing with head-on. It takes far more energy to keep running from it and avoiding it.
Avoidants often want to feel in control, but if you have to go out of your way to sabotage, destroy, run, and hide from your feelings or the truth, then it doesnโt really sound like youโre in control at all.
Youโve handed someone else that power. I hope it hurts.