Bingooooo — so many men have lied to get sex, faked who they are to get sex, lied about their status to get sex, cheated then came home to their partner… and had sex with them. They think consent just means saying yes. But if that yes would be changed based on that person knowing the truth, then it’s not consent. And they hate knowing that they’re rapists.
I think a lot of people are super defensive about coercion because they know they’ve probably coerced someone they’ve been with