How are you when it comes to accepting compliments?
My relationship with compliments was ‘awkward’ for decades.
But instead of continuing to respond to compliments with cheesy one-liners like “Oh you’re too kind,”
I’ve gone through some work to actually listen to compliments, acknowledge them with gratitude, accept them, and internalize them so I continue to improve while staying humble.
Here’s what I learned:
• Listening to a compliment is an essential first step.
People don’t dole out compliments willy nilly.
If someone is going to speak into my life, I give them my full attention.
Phones down, distractions put away.
• Acknowledging a compliment is simple.
If a compliment is received in person, make eye contact and say, “Thank you.”
Often, I will also explain why I’m grateful for the compliment.
For example, “Thank you for recognizing the hard work I’ve done. I often hope others see the value in what I do as you just did.”
• Accepting a compliment is not a visible action.
It's an intentional decision to remember the compliment, the complimenter, and the context in which I received it.
• Internalizing a compliment is a process of integration.
When I internalize a compliment, it becomes another piece of evidence I use to counter a negative internal thought or a negative comment.
I hope this helps you, if you struggle to accept compliments.