In my early twenties I was very casually dating a third runner-up to Miss Texas (while I was home for the summer) and I had a lot of friends over to my parentsβ house for a pool party. As a 21 year-old dude, I was pretty proud to tell my dad that his son was dating a runner-up to Miss Texas. He asked me which one she was and I said something like βobviously the really pretty one in the blue swimsuit - you didnβt notice her?β and he responded with βson, as an older, married man, I make it a habit not to notice younger women in swimsuitsβ and that cemented itself in my brain ever since.
I too have never seen my dad do anything like this, this is not inevitable. I refuse to believe it.