Having a cis straight guy best friend quickly makes you realize most queer theory has a very clunky and invalidating real world application.
My best friend will go “yeah Sam you’re a woman and I really don’t think about it any harder than that” and it’s miles better
“you identify as a woman, so i see you as one" is invalidating to transsexuals.
it may even be better if you said something vaguely objectifying.
your brain sorts people you see into a sex. this is science. sex isn't merely an identity, but a material reality.