Men are single because dating modern women feels like dating a MINOR or a DISABLED woman.
The burden of the relationship? Somehow, the man.
The marriage fails? The man didn’t lead properly.
The finances fall apart? His fault. He didn’t provide enough.
She’s unhappy? His fault. He wasn’t attentive enough.
She’s struggling mentally? He should’ve noticed, gotten her help, supported her better.
She stops taking care of herself? Somehow, he either didn’t motivate her enough or he’s an asshole for even mentioning it.
She’s overwhelmed with the children? He should’ve helped more.
And when kills her own children, “Where was the husband? Why didn’t he see the signs? Why didn’t he stop her?”
At what point is the woman in the relationship treated like an ADULT with agency and responsibility for her own decisions?
when everything collapses, suddenly the husband is expected to have been a provider, therapist, psychiatrist, marriage counselor, personal trainer, mind reader, babysitter, emotional regulator and apparently a fortune teller capable of predicting another adult’s actions.
So where exactly are the adult women these men are supposedly marrying?
You cannot demand that women be recognized as fully autonomous adults when things go right, then erase that autonomy the moment accountability becomes uncomfortable.
Agency without accountability isn’t adulthood.