idk, I grew up in a messy home and I definitely saw it. In fact, it bothered me quite a lot
Something a wife/mom needs to know. You might feel stressed from clutter and messes, but most, if not all, of your people - especially your children! - probably feel very happy and totally at rest in your home. They genuinely DO NOT see what you see.
But what does bring them stress is an unhappy mom who frets and mutters and rains on parades.
You might not be able to change your internal stress response as you work to conquer the clutter and your soul, but you can control the rain! ☂️