I've been building basically every part of my wedding stack myself -- RSVP system, website, email comms, planning tools, payments, etc. Once it's is over I will try to package it up, or at least document what I did, for anyone foolish enough to do this too

Aug 25, 2026 · 6:08 PM UTC

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We did a lot of it ourselves too: nickandmika.com v custom. @loops for emails. but still kept WithJoy for the RSVPs part!

Nick & Mika are getting married!

January 17, 2026 | Modala, Panglao, Bohol

nickandmika.com
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Nice looks great!! I'll share my site with you privately for now. Pretty proud of the rsvp system i built :P You guys did this before the models got way way better this year -- props!!
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Congrats :)
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Thanks my man, been too long!
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wow...that is...intense...! Who knew you needed a second full time job hehe! I sent save the date through email, bought paper plates at walmart the week before and found some twinkle lights at a garage sale 😂
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Part of me wishes we just went this route! Def has been a second job. But it's good learning!
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Wife built: partyponygames.com/ Games for Bacharolette parties!

Party Pony: phone party games for your bachelorette

Party Pony turns your phone into a controller and your TV into the stage. Buy a themed Party Pack once and host bachelorette party games your whole crew plays together, no app to install.

partyponygames.com
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Great idea!
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Replying to @nkumar23
love it my friend did something similar after planning his own giant wedding, made a book out of it rickwebb.net/man-nup

Man Nup — Rick Webb

Man Nup is a book for men who are planning their own weddings.

rickwebb.net
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OG!
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Do you think it’s worth it? My fiances mom joked to the planner we are software engineers so we should just build it ourselves But also it’s like $20/mo and im already overloaded so we’re just gonna buy lol
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do not recommend for most ppl, but we are being obsessive about design, very very opinionated about who we work with (many of whom are small, regional biz or first-timers we want to give an opportunity to) we don't have a wedding planner, we like doing things from scratch def not a good idea for most ppl / not worth it in most cases
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Thought about this when planning ours too. Then I realized how deceptively deep something like @Zola goes- RSVPs, registries, guest comms, payments, etc.
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Def goes deep! I wound up trying to tackle all of those components and... it's actually gone ok. Thank god for all of the improvements in models since the beginning of the year, probably would have been a lot harder to manage everything if we were still on opus 4.5
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Replying to @nkumar23
What’s the payment for. For vendors??
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We have to book all of the accommodations for our guests because of the venue (it's a summer camp with cabins - we are assigning ppl to cabins) So we need to figure out how to get reimbursed by guests for their rooms. The venue is not charging them directly
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Ticketing and reservation systems seem simple until it’s not aha. Rooting for you bro. Here if ya need help!
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interesting i did similar but outsourced in some places withjoy for rsvps, paypal, etc.
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Sick idea btw
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