We've gotten so terrified of "victim blaming" that we aren't even telling women how to help themselves anymore
Most assaults are not you being kidnapped and tied up in a basement, they're an acquaintence taking advantage of a squishy boundary
They're you not leaving bad situations, not saying "no," or getting so drunk you pass out around people you shouldn't trust
No, you aren't "asking for it" in any of these scenarios, but you also aren't doing your part to prevent it