Yall literally cause yall own suffering
When your body count hits 5 as a woman and you haven't found a man yet to put a ring on it, my advise is that you should become celibate for the next man you get into a relationship with. Deny him sex and pressure him to get married to you within a short time to prove his seriousness.
You don't want to keep adding to your body count unnecessarily for these unserious men.