The autistic urge to search for the exact right words so there's no room for misunderstanding, only for the other person to horrifically misunderstand those exact words and suddenly you're the monster and any attempts to re-explain are rejected because you've already been judged.
the autistic urge to search for the exact right words so there’s absolutely no room for misunderstanding, only for the other person to ignore half of what you actually said and focus on your facial expression, tone, posture, or some tiny movement you made instead. you can spend ten minutes carefully constructing a sentence and somehow still be misunderstood because your face didn’t cooperate.