Do you realize how many of the conditions that fuel suicidal thoughts are normalized in esports?
It isn’t difficult to understand why so many people in this industry experience severe psychological distress.
1. Hopelessness
One of the strongest drivers of suicidal thinking is hopelessness.
We sell young people a dream, and they want nothing less than to become the best.
We tell them that if they try hard enough, work their asses off, and sacrifice everything, they will eventually succeed.
Then reality hits.
Success demands far more than effort and sacrifice alone, and realizing that can feel like being hit by a truck.
A major source of suffering is the gap between your expectations and reality.
And because this industry encourages enormous dreams while offering simplistic promises about how to achieve them, that gap can become immense.
Eventually, it may feel impossible to close that gap.
And that is where hopelessness begins.
2. Entrapment
Another major driver is the feeling that there is no way out.
Let’s say you play VALORANT or League of Legends and start losing games.
What is our instinct in this industry?
We blame external factors: our teammates, the ranked system, bad luck, a lack of opportunities…
Blaming others may temporarily protect your ego, but it can also make you surrender control over your life.
Whatever you blame, you give power over your life.
You believe you are stuck because of your teammates?
Then your only perceived way out is to find better teammates.
You believe you aren’t receiving opportunities because you don’t know the right people?
Then you have just convinced yourself that no matter how much work you put in, none of it will matter.
That is entrapment: believing that your situation is unbearable, while seeing no action you can take to escape it.
3. When losing becomes an existential threat
This industry constantly encourages people to associate their value as human beings with their rank and results.
You have no idea how destructive that can be.
When you desperately want to succeed, losing no longer feels like simply losing a game.
It feels like watching your dream die.
You lose the game.
You lose ranking points.
You feel yourself losing status.
And eventually, you feel as though you are losing your value as a person.
Losing becomes an existential threat.
That, can create severe distress and temporarily cut you off from your ability to think calmly, logically, and with perspective.
Then comes the self-condemnation:
"Guys, I’m so sorry we lost. I was trash. I don’t deserve to be here. My teammates gave everything, and I let them down."
It sounds beautiful, doesn’t it?
This industry loves messages like this.
We glorify defeated players for publicly punishing themselves. We treat their shame as a badge of honor:
"This is what a real competitor looks like after a loss."
Absolutely not.
This is what we get when we teach people that suffering proves how much they care. And that belief can become incredibly dangerous.
4. Perceived burdensomeness
How many times have you read something like this?
"I don’t deserve to be here."
"My performance was shameful."
"My team would be better off without me."
"I don’t want my teammates to lose because of me."
Repeat those ideas often enough, and your brain may gradually begin to perceive you as a burden, not only inside the game, but outside it as well.
The belief that you are "not good enough for others" is incredibly widespread in esports.
Every time you play with your friends and bottom-frag, you start believing it is normal to see yourself as a burden.
Eventually, shame overwhelms everything else.
5. Exhaustion
Now imagine living with all of this for years.
Losing is treated as unacceptable, yet every tournament produces 1 winner and 15 losers.
Not being good enough is made to feel like having no value.
Underperforming is made to feel like becoming a burden to everyone around you.
And every day, you receive the same simplistic advice:
"Work hard,it will pay off."
"Believe in your dreams."
"Hard work always pays off."
"You just have to keep believing."
What happens when someone follows that advice, sacrifices everything, and still fails?
They never question the advice they heard so often.
They question themselves.
So they work harder. Sacrifice more. Become increasingly isolated. And when nothing changes, they conclude that they must be fundamentally incapable of succeeding.
That combination of hopelessness, entrapment, shame, perceived burdensomeness, and exhaustion can become extremely dangerous.
There are countless elements within esports culture that damage people’s mental health.
Yes, we should encourage people to speak to someone when they are in distress.
But we must also recognize that, in esports, the person they approach may repeat the exact beliefs that are already pushing them deeper:
"Stop complaining."
"Work harder."
"You simply don’t want it enough."
"If you were truly committed, you would sacrifice more."
If we genuinely want things to change, we cannot limit ourselves to telling distressed people to ask for help.
We must stop reinforcing the beliefs and conditions that made them miserable in the first place.
This post is not an attack on the post I am quoting.
It is the other half of the picture that we don't want to see.
"For every dream that comes true, dig a thousand graves."
Salam aleykoum la famille,
Aujourd’hui nous sommes le 10 septembre.
C’est la journée internationale de prévention du suicide.
On néglige souvent son propre bien-être et sa santé mentale. On embellit nos journées, on cherche de la dopamine dans notre quotidien, on s’attache aux quelques choses qui nous font vibrer… parfois juste pour entasser nos émotions et nos sentiments.
La santé mentale, c’est quelque chose d’important. Ce n’est pas un tabou de « ne pas se sentir bien ».
Parler ne veut pas dire être faible.
Demander de l’aide, ce n’est pas être faible. Au contraire, ça demande une force incroyable de comprendre son propre état, d’accepter qu’on ne va pas bien et de vouloir aller de l’avant pour régler les choses.
Je sais qu’un psychologue, ce n’est pas donné et que tout le monde n’a pas forcément les moyens.
Mais il existe maintenant en France un dispositif appelé « Mon soutien psy ».
Vous pouvez avoir jusqu’à 12 séances par an avec un psychologue partenaire, avec une prise en charge par l’Assurance Maladie.
Vraiment la famille, la santé mentale est un sujet MAJEUR et c’est vraiment pas une honte d’en parler.
Cherchez à aider et à comprendre les gens autour de vous. Et si le sujet vous concerne directement, demandez de l’aide. Ce n’est ni tabou, ni une honte et si une personne vous dis ça alors rayez la de votre vie.
Quelques numéros importants :
3114 — Prévention du suicide (c’est gratuit 7j/7 -> 24/24)
15 ou 112 — En cas de danger immédiat
Prenez soin de vous, de vos proches
Et in sha Allah kheir 💛