the first date I went on in SF, the guy asked me on a second date and in between them started sending me Substack articles by Aella to convince me polycules are normal
these groups, and others like the groups that position their careers / companies around rage bait or hype marketing are a cancer to SF and to the future of technology at large.
if we are going to create things that have serious consequences for the rest of the world, then we must honor that responsibility, and be serious people ourselves that deserve such an honor.
this is a huge part of why making events like this a central part of your community is bad. it creates a culture that is toxic and hostile to women