Things men need from their wives but shouldn’t have to ask for them: • Initiating intimacy
• Building him up in public and in private
• Random physical displays of affection
• Saying “thank you and I trust you”
• Choosing him over attention from others Wives who master these without him having to ask for it, have husbands who can’t wait to go home.

It doesn’t matter how much you lift. If I see you moving 5 lbs or 500 lbs, I’m still congratulating you. You already beat the version of you that never showed up.

Men and women aren’t wired the same. And that’s a GOOD thing. Think of it like two opposite wires, but both are needed to keep the house functioning. Here’s how it works: He wants sex to feel connected = She wants connection before sex. For her, emotional closeness creates the desire for physical intimacy. For him, physical intimacy is how he feels close. This is how long-term bonds are formed. Now let’s see how this opposite wiring works when there are problems. He goes quiet with problems = She starts to talk with problems. For him, silence helps him process a solution. For her, talking helps her process a solution. This allows him to hear the problem from her while he starts to process a solution quietly. This builds competency for men and respect for women, which builds trust and respect over time. He hears a problem and thinks, How do we fix this? She says, I need you to understand the details leading up to the problem so I can prevent it from happening again. When he listens before fixing, it avoids future risk. And when she learns to trust his ability to fix the problem, she earns respect. This brings me to the glue of a relationship. He needs to feel respected = She needs to feel chosen. For him, respect communicates love, trust, and commitment. For her, being chosen communicates security, love, and devotion. Both understand what the other needs to feel secure in the relationship, and both start learning how to speak to each other to get their needs met. This is why different wiring does not mean bad. The wiring may be different. The circuits may be different. The way the electricity travels may be different. But the purpose is the same: To keep the house functioning as a whole. That’s how long-term relationships work. And that house will only need to be torn down when one wire starts to malfunction. And a wiring only malfunctions when a man and woman start to compete instead of working together. Don’t try to change a man. Don’t try to change your woman. Accept their differences and learn to work with them to keep the house functioning.

Gia is telling you the truth, and why I’ve been so adamant that a man should refuse to perform for a woman who withholds sex as a way to earn it back. If you do that, she has taken control of the marriage and will move the goalposts again when she becomes unsatisfied with her husband’s performance that had previously satisfied her. “But Rob, it works! Here are men back to having sex with their wives after improving themselves after she cut off sex.” I never said it didn’t work. I’m asking how long it will work now that you’ve established the pattern of what happens when what was once enough is no longer enough? The only long-term option for a married man who wants a marriage where he isn’t continually challenged to improve - “or else” - is the wife orbiting the husband, not the husband orbiting the wife. -R

We’ve only known each other for 5 years or so… LMAO

It is easier to show you what I mean Watch 👇 Only when a woman recognizes what her husband does for her, it starts realizing that she is part of the equation, only then can she work actively to change it

If you see a woman in the gym hitting a clean squat on the rack, with a solid body, just know she’s not a liberal. A liberal woman looks at the bar and says, “This is oppressing me. Where are all the men who should be lifting that for me?”

There is no woman that exists who knows what she wants when she gets married and stays satisfied once she gets it. This is a hard reality most people don’t want to face. That’s because when she finds a good man, she keeps moving the goalpost so he can never satisfy her. Women don’t actually want solutions. A solution would mean she has to be satisfied and happy. Many women need a reason to stay unhappy and a reason to blame everyone else but herself. If you don’t believe me, look at the first perfect woman ever created. Eve was given everything and still found something wrong. That’s why a woman will blow up her entire life for HER “happiness.” But a man will sacrifice his happiness so he doesn’t blow up his family’s life.

Blame American fathers for the unsufferable daughters they raise.

IMPORTANT:

The men who’ll fight this truth the hardest are the ones married 20, 30, 40 years. A lot of them built their entire identity around pleasing their wife. Look what I bought her. Look what I did for her. Look how happy she is. That’s how they prove they’re a “good man.” That’s why they’re going to see this as a ridiculous take their entire self identity is wrapped around the belief that I need to please my wife Not a diss. Just what happens when a man’s self-worth gets outsourced to her smile. That’s why so many women are out of control. He enabled it. He tolerated it. He needed her happy so he could feel like he was doing his job. “Happy wife, happy life” is how you raise a grown woman who thinks the world exists to accommodate her. If you want women to change, men have to stop treating her mood like the scoreboard of their manhood. And the guys who’ve been doing it the longest are usually the last ones willing to admit it.

This just shows how dumb people are. They ran the same jeans ad in 1980 with Brooke Shields that they ran with Sydney Sweeney. Same pose. Same outrage. Both girls were hated Marketing repeats the cycle every few decades and everybody falls for it like Groundhog Day.🤣

Don’t give them everything you never had. Teach your kids how to earn what they want, or you might get your own version of Veruca Salt.

Psychology 101: if they can’t own you, have you, or use you, they will need to destroy you.

All the chaos we see today didn’t fall out of the sky. It was trained. If you raise little girls on Disney; the man appears, solves everything, hands her a mansion, and all she has to do is exist, look pretty, and sing to birds…you get women who think that’s how life works. Then they’re stunned when a husband isn’t a genie and marriage requires work, sacrifice, and contribution. If you raise little boys on superhero fantasies where they never marry, never commit, and fly around by the seat of their pants; you get men who never learned how to be stable, lead a home, or be a father. This didn’t start with a 17-year-old’s Maserati. It started with what we normalized before they could even read. Phones at 5. Screens all day. Instant everything. Never hearing “no.” Never having to earn a damn thing. Then we act shocked when they grow up entitled and incapable. This is media + technology + parents who thought “giving them everything I never had” was love. It wasn’t love. It was programming.