This is why you should always ignore absolutely any and all "community" surrounding your hobbies
9 times out of 10, the people strong arming in statements on how to enjoy things have absolutely no real world perspective
Do what you want, gatekeeping isn't real and never will be
I don't care what he thinks about video games, Roger Ebert had the ultimate redpill on nerd culture as a whole.
This basically describes every fandom on earth, and once you see it, you can never un-see it.