I am glad this post is coming from a woman.
It's the hard truth to swallow for women but the truth.
Your man tells you he is not planning on having kids or getting married anytime soon because he is still sorting out his life.
He tells you he wants to get his second degree, a proper house, and a bigger car first.
You sit there smiling with just a birth certificate, thinking you will be the wife?
With the little he has, you ask for Brazilian hair ,bags and Clinique products.
He goes to work and goes straight to class after work.
He leaves you in your pyjamas and comes back to find you in the same pyjamas.
While he studies, you watch all the Netflix, Amazon prime videos, Korean dramas ,Telemundo, telenovelas, Zee World, etc.
He comes back home to rice and chicken in the microwave, the house clean, and his clothes ironed.
The only serious conversation you have is about the type of groceries you need.
The only advice you give him is, “Babe, you need to buy new underwear and socks. The ones you bought last time are torn.”
Nothing intelligent comes out of your mouth.
No plans to make your own life better.
Yes, you are pretty. No doubt about that. But so is every second girl your man passes by.
Do you realise something?
You are not doing anything a maid cannot do. 🤷♀️🤌
He is going to finish school, and the first thing he is going to do is REPLACE HIS MAID because he can now afford to pay one and have a PROPER WIFE/GIRLFRIEND.
Then we will hear your famous quote: “I was with him through thick and thin when he had nothing. Now that he is successful, he thinks I am nothing.”
Yes, you are right, but he is also right: you have not built anything for yourself.
Empower yourself to be a strong woman. 💪
Be a woman who would be able to carry the whole family if anything happens to your man’s job or health.
Be a woman who can survive without a man.
Go for that degree. Learn a skill. Invest in a business.
Build a life that does not depend entirely on what a man can provide…. Ok girlies🤷🏽♀️