Karmanye Vadhikaraste Ma Phaleshu Kadachana Ma Karma Phala Hetur Bhur Ma Te Sangostvakarmani ✨

self reminder: when in anger, shut your mouth. silence is the best medicine to avoid unending arguments.

when I tried to cook in a hurry 🖤

a good post about my neighbour. the family consists of a man, his wife, and his mother. it was a love marriage. based on what i heard, they fought a lot to get married since the mother was against her being a girl from a different state. cut to after marriage, they had a baby boy 3yrs ago and a cute lil girl just a few months ago. she didn't go to her maika during both the pregnancies. her husband and the mother-in-law took great care of her during and after the pregnancy. she delivered the babies in the local hospital. not in her maika. that's what i call owning a person. owning a DIL. you don't find ways to rush her to her maika on every minor inconvenience. pregnancy and delivery is not an easy task. and they owned her and the process. of course they have 4 maids. but it doesn't change the fact that they came forward to be with her, to bear her responsibilities and the kid's. she reciprocated the same love. the man's sister stayed with them during her pregnancy and for 6 months after the delivery. she took good care of her sister-in-law. that's what i call a lovely family ❤️ huge respect to the mother-in-law 🫡

marriage expenses were approx 25L with sangeeth. all my father-in-law had to comment on right after my parents left was how the caterer passed him no water when asked once. he kept on talking about how bad the caterer was the whole way until we reached home. never a positive word about the sangeeth, the mandap decoration, the reception, the arrangements, the cards, the accomodation, the good food or the gazillion other positives. lesson:- your DIL never likes it if you belittle her parents and their efforts infront of her. never expect love from her if this is how you behave.

when Rashmika said "no one asked him to take care of me but everyone including the fans, asked me to take care of him after the wedding", i felt it. no one including my parents asked him to take care of me. everyone asked me to cook well for him and take good care of him. it was all fun and smiles at first. but when this was repeating on every visit, i eventually felt really bad about no one thinking about me. i once expressed this dissatisfaction with my parents. i asked my father, why don't you ask him to look after me well too. he had no answer. didn't tell anything to him. it's my younger sister who stood up for me from then on and tells my husband to take care of me everytime we visit my mother's home 🫶 some practices need to be started fresh.

people really stopped talking to the women of the house to let them know that they're visiting. what's the point of letting men know of their arrival when it's the women who mostly does like 95% of the work. talk to them atleast as a formality or let your women talk to them even atleast for 2mins.

the comments and the quotes show who grew up with sisters and who didn't 💔

see I'm being honest. it's really painful to see this as a woman since i saw my grandmother live this exact horrible life with a toxic husband. she used to literally shiver everytime she had to serve her husband. she bore a drunkard, a smoker and a cheater all her life. with no help from even her family members. so i wonder why this is being normalised even in the shastras. with utmost respect to our scriptures 🙏

mind you, this is the same anxiety i feel when my parents are visiting me. but atleast i can be rest assured, my mother shall be willing to help me. my husband is welcoming to everyone since he had to do like nothing. understand the burden on the women.

now i understand how pandavas, guru dronacharya and pitamah bhishma observed Draupadi getting disrobed in silence. cuz they always ran on laws and protocols.

from all the comments from veterans, understood a thing. they told me, stop trying to impress in-laws cuz they will never be satisfied. they try to poke holes and say something negative of everything you do. just do your work and ignore hate or polictics. i shall do that 🙏🙏

want to clarify. some in the comments said, why can't you treat them as your own parents? why is it so difficult to cook for 2 more? it's never a problem if they treat me as their own. if they help me in the kitchen. if they be considerate towards me and cook for themselves atleast once a day. my mom, the moment she comes home, helps me cut vegetables. she cooks curry, while i prepare dal and rice. she self serves and asks others to serve for themselves. basically she treats me as a person. that's never the case with in-laws. they won't help in the kitchen. even in whatever i cook, they point out the negatives. they say that's not the way how you prepare it. will they help then? no. will they self serve if I'm in meetings, no. they wait for me to come out of my room to serve them. it all starts from morning. tea for one, milk for one, coffee for one. tiffins with 2 kinds of chutney. a curry and dal for lunch. again tea or coffee in the evenings. then another curry and rice for dinner for one. tiffin for the other. for 10 days. what's the problem? you can order food right? no. they want home cooked food. they won't eat outside food. can i atleast order chapathis? no. they don't like chapathis. can i order idli, dosa batter from outside. in the place i live in, the pre made batter is not yet available. can i manage with a cook. yes but they don't like the food prepared by maids. and my maid, at the right time resigned 😭😭 I'm searching for another maid. imagine my mental health. it's easy to cook with help. not easy without any help but a ton of expectations. I'm not an expert chef. i just learnt cooking after college like every boy.

in-laws are coming home this sunday for 10 days 😭😭🙏 wish me luck. they've to ruin my every birthday with their presence 💔 I'm shit scared of how i can manage food for them, 3 times a day 🥶🥶 this is what i honestly feel about their arrival. but i have to act cool infront of them.

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oct is my month 💪

i recently turned bitter at my father-in-law who kept saying i should've informed him before travelling when my husband couldn't, as a good daughter-in-law. i can take responsibilities but not all of them just because my husband was busy. I'm busy too. I want some ME time too. I get exhausted talking to people all the time like my husband. just as how you couldn't bear to climb up the corporate ladder anymore for tags and labels, i couldn't bear to fulfill all the responsibilities for a label called "good daughter-in-law". it's ok if you tag me as a bad daughter-in-law. i just want PEACE. i don't want my in-laws to consult me and put me before my husband. i want him to take care of his family. ofcourse we do it together. but I'm not gonna be the front man.

Rekha inspiring people is everything that's wrong with this society.

i no longer am proud of my programming skills or the job I'm working for. AI took the fun out of intelligence. the real kick is now in posting relatable content and me getting appreciation for it.

Sushant Singh Rajput

a person who's doing wrong doesn't know he's doing wrong. even if he knows, he shall not accept it and continues to do the things that any other human would do. you can't stop people from praying and chanting if they're already doing it irrespective of their bad deeds. Ex: Ravana In such situations, karma would answer them.