My world changed forever today.
The woman whose hand I held for more than 28 years is no longer here for me to reach for.
My beautiful Yolanda passed away.
I have written thousands of words in my life, but I do not have words big enough for this.
For more than 28 years, Yolanda and I were almost never apart.
I don’t mean that figuratively.
We had lunch together every day. Dinner together every night. We worked together, traveled together, laughed together, fought battles together, made plans together, grew older together, and went to sleep knowing that whatever tomorrow brought, we would face it side by side.
She was not simply my wife.
She was the rhythm of my life.
My best friend.
My partner.
My conscience.
My sounding board.
My greatest defender.
My favorite person in the world.
There was never really a Tony without Yolanda.
There was just us.
We lived.
God, did we live.
We traveled. We laughed until it hurt. We built memories in ordinary restaurants and extraordinary places. We turned lunches into hours-long conversations and dinners into strategy sessions about life. We experienced victories, disasters, adventures, disappointments, and moments so beautiful I wish I could somehow climb back inside them.
We did not save life for later.
We lived the hell out of it.
And I am eternally grateful that we did.
Then cancer came.
And anyone who followed Yolanda’s journey knows exactly what happened next.
She fought.
She fought through treatments, surgeries, hospitals, pain, setbacks, and moments that would have crushed most human beings.
Again and again, her body would be knocked down.
Again and again, Yolanda got back up.
She fought like a champion.
And somehow, through all of it, she remained Yolanda.
Stubborn.
Funny.
Strong.
Beautiful.
Defiant.
A badass.
Right to the very end.
Cancer may have finally taken her body from us.
But it never defeated the woman.
It never touched the love between us.
And it will never get the final word on who Yolanda Seruga was.
Her LIFE gets that word.
Her courage gets that word.
Her family gets that word.
The thousands of people she touched get that word.
And our love gets that word.
To all of you who followed this journey, prayed for her, shared our updates, sent messages, contributed financially, checked on us, and carried us through days when I did not know how much more either of us could endure:
Thank you.
Please understand something very important.
Yolanda knew.
She knew you were there.
She knew people she had never met were praying for her.
She knew thousands of strangers had somehow become friends standing beside her in this fight.
Your kindness mattered.
Your prayers mattered.
Your generosity mattered.
You gave us something priceless during some of the darkest days of our lives:
You reminded Yolanda that she was not fighting alone.
And neither was I.
I held her hand through this battle just as I had held it through our life together.
Now I am sitting here trying to understand something my heart simply refuses to understand:
For the first time in more than 28 years, my partner is not beside me.
No lunch together today.
No dinner together tonight.
No familiar voice from the other room.
No hand reaching for mine.
There is an emptiness where an entire human being—my entire world—used to be.
But if there is one thing Yolanda taught me, it is this:
Love does not disappear simply because someone dies.
Twenty-eight years does not vanish.
A lifetime of mornings, meals, laughter, arguments, adventures, whispered conversations, inside jokes, and holding hands does not suddenly become nothing.
She is stitched into me.
She helped make me who I am.
And whatever days I have left on this earth, part of Yolanda will be walking through them with me.
I would choose her again.
Every time.
Every life.
Knowing how this story ends, I would still walk straight toward her.
Because 28+ years with Yolanda were worth the unbearable price of missing her now.
For those asking how to help, the kindest thing you can do is remember her, say a prayer, and hold the people you love a little tighter.
And because this fight left thousands of dollars in medical, caregiving, and related bills still outstanding, anyone who feels moved to help me close out those final expenses in Yolanda’s memory can do so here:
givesendgo.com/yolandas
Please never feel obligated. The love, prayers, and support you already gave her meant more than I can possibly say.
Thank you for loving my wife.
Thank you for fighting alongside us.
Thank you for praying for my girl.
She fought like a champ.
She lived like a champ.
She loved fiercely.
And right to the very end, Yolanda Seruga remained exactly what she had always been:
One hell of a badass.
I love you with every piece of my heart, baby.
I loved you yesterday.
I love you today.
I will love you for the rest of my life.
And someday, wherever this road leads…
I will find your hand again.
Until then, my love. ❤️