100%
My friend tells me he hasn't gotten a date in 10 years, hates the apps, and doesn't know what to do
I asked him tell me what your normal week looks like amigo
He says he stays indoors 24/7 working remotely, gaming, and watching tv and porn
I asked what do you do to meet new people
He said he doesnt do anything
There's your problem right there..
Many of modernity's problems have pretty logical and straightfwd solutions
This is brutal but it's true
I've never known anyone who was single for a long time who didn't deserve to be
I don't mean because they are bad people
But that when you look closely, their life is a really effective system for remaining alone:
- They don't meet anyone
- They ignore people who express interest
- They reject the people available to them
- They obsess about people who aren't available
- They have insane "standards" for others yet simultaneously never require anything more from themselves
- They're still in love with an ex and haven't admitted this to themselves, or grieved or even tried doing anything about it
- Their lifestyle sets them up to be a complete weirdo (computer all day scrolling ragebait tweets on X, watching porn, etc) and develop insane attitudes + rationalizations that they never challenge
- They spend their time doing "self development" like going to the gym, meditating, recently popular things like looksmaxxing, etc, with the idea of becoming "ready" one day. Yet ready never arrives, and they never actually increase the amount of action they are taking. The things they do is a way to justify not facing fear of rejection
Yet they do all this while claiming they "want love" and saying "I tried their best, it just didn't work!"
But the explanation 99.99% of the time isn't that it's just a brutal world out there and you're a poor little victim condemned to eternal aloneness
It's that something on the list above identified your exact issue
That you're single on purpose, because it's a logical inevitably from the way you live
But right now you're far more committed to lying to yourself to protect your self image than actually doing anything about it