i think an often lost nuance in these convos is that there is a distinct difference between raising a voice in alarm, and raising a voice in anger. the situation matters drastically less than the emotion a parent is expressing towards their child
you cannot reason with a toddler. they donโt understand. iโve been hanging out with three year old twins for the past 5 days and trust me, sometimes you DO need to raise your voice and first+middle name them when they start smacking the shit out of the dog.