I read the paper, the Times article back when it came out, and I understand the reference perfectly well. That doesn’t make it above criticism. I think it’s gratuitous here. There are real problems with choosing to describe family relationships and women’s reproductive decisions in those terms, and pointing me back to Becker doesn't address it. Especially if, as you claim, you hope your research will lead to better and more conversations between families then yes you of course shoulder some responsibility for the rhetoric you choose to deploy as you push these ideas forward.
I would offer that you do not respond to your (predominately but not exclusively) female critics with suggestions that they must just be ignorant about economics or whatever it is
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