letting comphet be reframed as "haha I sleep with men when im bored" rather than socially enforced self-harm was a massive mistake

Sep 27, 2026 · 9:33 PM UTC

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compulsory heterosexuality is a systemic pressure to ensure women make themselves available to men. its not a fun term for getting drunk and hooking up with a guy
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Replying to @thereisnobeth
even further, is the removal from its roots as a concept around heterosexual women. not that it isn't also applicable to lesbians, but we've certainly removed it as a commentary in the socially coercive nature of a heterosexual regime, into an individual problem
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!!!!!! you're so right
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Replying to @thereisnobeth
Like I only stopped wanting to kms when I stopped sleeping with men. It was hell on earth (for me) to keep up with comphet and it was draining my soul.
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literally it made me feel hollow and rotten but I thought it was all I deserved
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Replying to @thereisnobeth @femmepyr
Comphet is me forcing myself to pick crushes on boys so I stop getting accused of being a lesbian. Comphet is trying to make myself have a drunk 3some with a guy bc the girl I like only wants to be with me if a man is involved. Still couldn’t even do it drunk and high off my face
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god the drunk threesome is so real
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Replying to @thereisnobeth
This stuff is so insane to me because KP and I have slept with the same guy and people attacked me for bringing it up on TikTok a few years ago
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small world oh my god
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Replying to @thereisnobeth
i feel like framing comphet as an intrusive thought is also helpful because if there IS someone who genuinely only sleeps w men because theyre desperate that would be able to snap them into realizing what they're doing is irrational
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Replying to @thereisnobeth
yeah...
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Replying to @thereisnobeth
feels minimising especially when the reason I slept with men was basically a self imposed conversion therapy attempt
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Replying to @thereisnobeth
socially enforced self-harm is so well put. I don't think a lot of people understand how violent and violating it is
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Replying to @thereisnobeth
it depresses me so bad how much comphet has been misunderstood
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Replying to @thereisnobeth
like i have only ever done it because i didn't know how to say no, it's not some cutesy thing. and if it is then it's some other shit and not this
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Replying to @thereisnobeth
Like, if you want dick every so often, homo-flexible is RIGHT THERE. Just be upfront that you occasionally like penis.
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Replying to @thereisnobeth
I don't think she's even talking about comhet, just hedonism or social context. No where did she say shes attracted men, and everyone is using it as an excuse to be exclusionist and rescurrect MOGAI-ism and excuse transphobia and gold star-ism.
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Replying to @thereisnobeth
I don't know what comphet actually means, but I read it as "competitive heterosexuality," which makes any and all mentions of it very amusing to me.
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Replying to @thereisnobeth
Lesbians dont sleep with men when their bored, they’re are plenty of other things to do to fill you’re time. But I’m more than sure that bisexual women sleep with men because they’re bored.
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Replying to @thereisnobeth
I was in a very dark place when I slept with men.
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Replying to @thereisnobeth
It feels like recently people have been describing it as such so when they get any amount of push back, even the slightest they can fall back on "it was actually comphet"
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Replying to @thereisnobeth
My dumb ass read comphet as competitive hetero...
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Replying to @thereisnobeth
My comphet happened before I realized I am a lesbian, like I had to pick boys as a crush cause all my friends got one. Stupidly, I choose the boy my best friend's crush... I hadn't realized that crush it's not something to be shared between friends, and she was annoyed ofc
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Replying to @thereisnobeth
i wish i could repost this 20 billion trillion times
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Its a form of society raping lesbians and they are making a joke out of it
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Yess
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