Ok, some reflections, taking seriously the Platner defenders...
1. I think post-MeToo all reasonable people have finally agreed that there is a difference between "woman consents to sex with a man she knows with less than 100% enthusiasm" and "stranger violently rapes woman in an alley" and that these things are two ends of a pretty wide spectrum.
2. Hook-up culture necessarily invites a lot of acts that sit somewhere in that spectrum, for a million reasons, fundamentally due to the fact that men and women have different preferences and goals when it comes to sex vs romantic attachment & relationship commitment, but also, take your pick, widespread consumption of alcohol and drugs, to the sexual marketplace that gives more leverage to men because women feel they "must" have sex with a man earlier than they would like in order to have the prospect of a relationship, but also the fact that men are physically more powerful and intimidating than women.
3. This is obviously a big problem for feminists, because traditional culture had lots of socially-agreed-upon rules and scripts that seriously curtailed the problem above. They didn't completely eliminate it obviously, and maybe it had all these other drawbacks, but it did do that. MeToo (and its predecessor Title IX kangaroo courts) was an attempt to come up with a set of non-traditional socially-agreed-upon rules and scripts to address the problem, and again, I think at this point reasonable people are willing to admit that that failed. The only third option I see is the free-for-all of "consent" as the only formal rule, which of course leads you right back to the problem.
4. Guys like Platner are exactly what the current settlement produces and enables. Good Feminist Men(tm) are obviously the worst when it comes to this stuff.
5. I think we can safely say that this is the absolute final nail in the coffin of MeToo. Platner's cascade of revelations dragged the entire left into saying "Well, intimate relationships are super complicated and messy, and a bad hookup is not the same thing as a rape," and THEN it turns out that their guy is actually a rapist.
6. To the people (whether on the contrarian right or the Japanese-soldier-island left) who say that the Platner accusations STILL just fall somewhere in the messy hookup-violence spectrum without qualifying as rape-rape ("rape-rape"... dear God...)... Even if one were to agree to the facts (I don't)....the point of the observation in point 1 is not to say that therefore everything on that messy spectrum short of rape-rape is OK. The question was never: is it ok. The question was: should it be considered rape or sexual assault LEGALLY, and should someone's life/reputation/career be completely obliterated because they did something on the messy spectrum?
7. I am very comfortable in saying that while some of the stuff on the very far left of the hookup-rape spectrum is easily pardonable "messy lives" stuff, as you move on that spectrum you get into pretty fucking dark territory pretty fucking quickly. Maybe that stuff shouldn't be illegal. Certainly it shouldn't be sanctioned via cancel culture mob because nothing should be. But it doesn't therefore make it "ok".
7a. Re: Platner specifically, it seems to me that while it's unclear whether he used actual physical violence to get sex, he apparently used *physical intimidation*. Which, by the way, DOES fit the legal definition of rape! The bog-standard, old school, boring legal definition, not some post-MeToo redefinition. Cornering a woman in her own room and refusing to leave until she has sex with you IS rape, legally, period. And this is true even if he didn't have to forcibly pry her legs open!
7b. But again, even if that's not exactly what happened, I refer back to point 7. It's possible to simultaneously: (a) recognize "this stuff is on the spectrum"; (b) reject MeToo-style "everything is rape"; (c) say that an act that falls a little short of the legal definition of rape is still absolutely horrendous, disgusting, and makes you an absolute piece of shit.
7c. In a better world, the way this would have been solved is that, well before Platner had broken into anyone's home to demand sex, someone's brothers would have broken his fucking legs. Yes, that is indeed a horribly heteropatriarchal view of the case.
As ever: if the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?