My son was born a few weeks ago.
One day he'll ask me about women, and here's what I'll tell him.
(1/5) Women want to be led, in every sense.
Lead her physically, hold her hand, open the door, chart the path. And lead her in the bigger sense too.
Women want a man who has chosen a direction and is committed to it.
She doesn't need to know how you solve the problems day to day, she just needs to trust that you do. That's the man a woman feels safe walking beside.
(2/5) This one will get me in trouble, but it's true.
In the bedroom, women want to feel the power of the masculine, that animalistic asymmetry of strength when you're intimate.
It only works in a trusted setting, and the line is simple, you never hurt her and you never coerce her.
Inside that trust, most women crave to let go of control.
(3/5) Women want to be trained.
A woman wants to know her man has a backbone and boundaries. I spent years thinking the best thing I could give a woman was total freedom, but that's me projecting my own masculine frame onto her.
She doesn't want that. She wants direction, a role, responsibility. And when your boundaries get disrespected, you don't punish, you withdraw your attention.
(4/5) This one will upset people, but it's the most useful filter I know.
Be careful with women who have a bad relationship with their father.
That wound brings a lot of problems with it. Ask about her father and pay attention to the tone, the words, what your gut tells you.
(5/5) Never argue with a woman.
When she's in that state, she's not using words to reach a conclusion, she's using them to test you.
Men test ideas, women test men. She wants to know you're solid under pressure. State your position firmly, and if she keeps coming, be the deeply rooted tree while the storm rages.
That's what she actually wants to know.
Underneath all five is one idea.
You build the island of order in a sea of chaos and handle the problems as they arise. She trusts that structure, and inside it she gets to be in her free-flowing feminine by nurturing, loving, and feeding the soul of your family.
The man builds the house, the woman makes it a home.