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"Women having unsupervised access to one another" is one of the funniest sentences I've heard in a long time. It sounds like a Seinfeld line, honestly. More seriously, the fear behind some of the "patriarchal" mindset is noteworthy. Guys, there's something better than fearing that your wife might go wild on you. It's trusting your godly wife in a God-centered and grace-driven way. Do you lead her and watch out for her as her "head" (Eph. 5:22)? Absolutely! You better do so. But do you distrust her, overburden her, and unwisely suffocate her? Not at all. The Bible gives us the grace-driven way. It's right there in plain sight before all of us. The godly husband of Proverbs 31:11 is one who goes outside the home to provide and lead the city. Mark his "heart" attitude toward his wife while he's gone: "The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain." Note the relationship here: he "trusts in her" and as a result enjoys great blessing from God. Some of what I see from "patriarchy" voices runs the opposite direction. Women are feared; women are untrusted; because of this, women live under a man who is domineering and frankly ungodly toward his wife. Such men are not Proverbs 31:11 men; they do not trust their Christian wife. They micro-manage her. They leave her little freedom, little room to breathe. She thus lives in some combination of anxiety, fear, anger, and repression. This is part of why women in such environments will on occasion go off the reservation. It will shock people when they do, because to that moment she has been buttoned-down. She has painted by the numbers, and the family life has looked like a patriarchal fairy-tale. But behind the scenes, her husband has failed her. He has failed her not because he has led her, but because he has misled her. He has suffocated her. He has micro-managed her. He has not trusted her in a righteous way. He has lived in fear toward her, and not committed her to Christ, who is her Lord and master and king. Has feminism had many bad effects on the church? Yes. Have some women been influenced at some level to not submit to their husbands and to see even godly authority in the home as bad? Yes. Is the rightful response to this to distrust our wives and leave them without "unsupervised access" to one another? Not at all. Our churches have lots of freedom in living out Titus 2. But it is a good thing for women to get together, go on retreats, train one another for godliness and womanliness (per Titus 2), meet up together privately for coffee, have events, hear from godly mature women at conferences, read good books written by godly women, and lots more besides. Again, we have much gospel freedom in what all this can look like. I have said it before, but there is a better paradigm than a fear-based one. Fear-based paradigms are almost always shame-based paradigms, which are the opposite of grace-based paradigms rooted in the gospel. Instead of living in fear, we can live in the gladness of the finished work of Christ. We can trust in a good God to work in our marriages and families. We need such work, in truth; we break things and get things wrong and need a whole lot of divine help to be godly men and women. This very much includes me! My prayer here is that the church will reject fear-based thinking and embrace grace-based thinking. This is what is behind the Proverbs 31:11 husband; he trusts in his godly wife, and his life is not filled with sorrow and pain as a result. His life is filled with "gain," God-given gain. So can ours be, brothers.

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That ain't milkin' a cow. That's called "havin' a fit".

I only get to pick one?🤓

“Everyone who disagrees with me is a feminist or a simp” is a leftist liberal victim mindset reminiscent of “everyone who digarees with me is a racist” and it’s very apparent that in hopes to go further right than the weak right these men have overcorrected and gone so far they are identical to leftists.

A Christian man or woman publicly saying that the Bible nowhere teaches that men are to dominate, monitor, and control their wives doesn't mean he's effeminate or she's a feminist. It means both of them know, believe, and stand on the rightly handled Word of truth (2 Timothy 2:15).

Not seeing a lot of men show up at the courthouse with signs sympathizing with Caleb Flynn…

Just as I am—with­out one plea, But that Thy blood was shed for me, And that Thou bidst me come to Thee— O Lamb of God, I come, I come. Just as I am—and wait­ing not To rid my soul of one dark blot, To Thee whose blood can cleanse each spot— O Lamb of God, I come, I come.

October is Pastor Appreciation Month! Here are eleven ways you can encourage your pastor (and don’t forget your associate pastor, minister of music, youth pastor, etc.!) michellelesley.com/2026/09/2…

Great work Michelle Lesley @MichelleDLesley and Amy Spreeman @AmyInCheeseLand. The Sisters said what had to be said. ⬇️⬇️

So… my husband just texted me.😀

Hey, young people... this isn't the only thing your parents are right about.

October is Pastor Appreciation Month! The ministry is a tough job, and pastors need all the encouragement they can get. Sometimes it’s the little things you say and do that can be a blessing to your pastor and make his job easier and more joyful. michellelesley.com/2026/09/2…

Just remember these men like @Brian_Sauve platformed patriarchy Hannah while tearing down actual sisters in Christ who stand on theological truth and don’t link arms with false teaching for the sake of their own agendas. Patriarchy Hannah who lied about who she was, her children… everything. They have no idea how to discern things and they should not be trusted. She was a “pick me” who said all the things they wanted her to. She didn’t push back at all… because she wasn’t even real.