You are supposed to use all your unfair advantages in life.
Beauty. Wealth. Capital. Networks. Relationships. Intelligence.
Use whatever you have to achieve your goals.
But there is a little problem: figuring out what your goals actually are - the things you genuinely want, not what you think you should want - is tricky for most of us.
In poker, you are dealt your cards, and the objective is simple: maximise your share of the pot.
Life is much more complex from a goal-setting perspective.
There are many parameters, both subjective and objective, that you can optimise for: money, peace, health, relationships, beauty, family, spiritual growth, meaning.
You can’t be at your peak in all of them.
At the same time, you probably can’t afford to completely neglect any of them.
Having a billion dollars but no one to share your joy with makes little sense.
Having enormous wealth but no healthy body to enjoy it with doesn’t make much sense either.
Likewise, having a healthy body while carrying a mountain of debt and unresolved trauma from past relationships won’t necessarily lead to a good life.
And even if you somehow have it all, having no meaning that you personally assign to your story can leave the whole thing feeling empty.
Some say the goal is balanced growth.
But even “balance” is subjective. It depends on the culture you come from, the circumstances you were born into, and the stage of life you are in.
So yes, you are supposed to use all your unfair advantages to reach your goals.
But before that, you need to spend some time figuring out what those goals actually are.
Everyone is not dealt the same cards.
And everyone doesn’t have the same goals either.
Life is not exactly poker and we are not playing against each other!