Ben is wrong.
I was on the air the day Richard Dreyfuss and Jeramie Rain welcomed their son, Ben. Legend has it they were set to name him Peter until it turned out he was born with a rare disorder called Peter's anomaly that left him with just one eye. I mention being on the radio because that is how I heard about it—we were the internet before the internet. All tidbits of pop culture flowed through the radio.
My biological clock was ticking loudly, and I spent many hours imagining the joy that surely awaited me someday. The public display of the Dreyfuss's mix of joy and whatever else attended them shattered my rose-colored glasses about having a baby.
Fast forward, decades later when Ben's rants began showing up in my For You feed on X. What a nutcase, I thought. Oh wait—he has one eye. And he was a druggie. And he ideated suicide. Having grown up the baby sister of a heroin addict (talk about shattering, but I digress), I felt a mix of empathy and curiosity.
At some point I subscribed to Ben's Substack. He was the first, and until recently, the only subscription I paid for. (Follow and subscribe to
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After now seeing that Ben is—after a fashion—fine, I decided to drop my subscription. But timing being what it is, just as my subscription was about to lapse, my husband Thom directed a production of the three-hander The Shark is Broken. Written by the son of Robert Shaw it's about the three stars of Jaws being stuck on the boat because the mechanical shark was constantly broken.
In lesser hands the play would have been a shit show, but Thom made it sing. I know it isn't a documentary, but holy Mo, the depiction of Ben's dad lined up so closely with his public reputation that it gave me pause. Fine or not, Ben Dreyfuss is (so far) a survivor. And I like to support survivors. So, I re-upped. Mind you, I dropped from the premium Founder level to the mid-tier.
Look, we all have some equivalent of one-eye. Everyone is wounded; some keep bleeding, and no one gets out unscathed. So no, I do not feel sorry for Ben and his one-eye. He's a good writer. And I encourage you to subscribe. But he is a nut.
open.substack.com/pub/bendre… Everyone Feels Sorry For People With No Eyes. But No One Thinks Of The One-Eyeds. by@calmdownfeed