I don't think you should be upset that people interpret your words as what they literally mean.
"Group X are Y" implies "All X are Y." That is logically entailed by the meanings of those words, and by how categories work.
If you didn't mean that, you should use different words.
One of the biggest red flags is understanding group critique doesn’t mean you specifically.
I.e Not all men, not all white people, not all white trans women
And failure to seperate yourself from that or sympathize with those people tbh is a red flag, it lacks self awareness