I don’t know dude it sounds to me, from how you’re describing the story events, that the girl thought you were passing and paid you a girl to “girl” compliment, which you would expect a troon to find validating.
You repaid this nicety by breaking down and throwing a fit, making her feel bad and apologizing for it.
Sounds like you’re the asshole here.
i rejoined the party and after a while the girl responsible found me and apologized profusely. i appreciated the apology and understood that she’d meant it as a compliment, but nonetheless i gently reminded her to be very cautious when speaking about a trans woman’s body.