I agree. The problem is that the yin vs the yang definitions of agentic are different, and when we tell women to be more agentic, that often means prescribing us more societally-default yang definitions of agentic, focused on doing more and achieving more (which honestly, both men and women could use less of). When people tell women to be more agentic and accountable, rarely does it have to do with being discerning, cultivating backbone/strong moral code, having character/integrity, owning your decisions and taste, being in your power and responsible with that power.
I have never said “men and women are the same” nor “women and men should be the same” because i absolutely do NOT believe that because it’s simply not true. i just think women should be more agentic!! what’s so controversial about that!! have reading comprehension!!