Wow, it doesn’t matter if she did drugs (including alcohol, meth, crack, ayahuasca, GHB, coke, fetty, and bath salts), is a bad person who hates cats and dogs, didn’t vote for your side, or ate a taco salad and tore up the bathroom.
If she said no once, five times where the Candyman showed up, or a million times while smiling and laughing, then angry and mad, and finally in an introspective and somber tone while drinking a Nescafe, that is the verbal command to stop, you mofo.
There are also the non-verbal indicators, and the fact the dude gave someone something and lied about what it was. That’s effn heinous.
I wanted to share something relatively mundane in comparison to what happened at Cornell, because every day versions of my story happen. Was it rape? No. Was it wrong? Yes, and no one stepped in. It took these people being personally impacted by this man for his poor behavior to matter to them. It is everyone’s responsibility to say something when they see something wrong. Not doing so only enables it.